Non-Christians may be perplexed as to why I appear to be disparaging you in this article, but the truth is that I'm presenting this for committed Christians, not those who have no connection to God or the Church.


So we will ask why single Christians are increasingly turning to non-Christians to seek relationships? We will also deal with the consequences for the Christians themselves and the wider Church. Then, finally, we will discuss what we can do about it from an individual perspective and help one another.


If you've ever been a single Christian, you know how difficult it can be (at times) to find suitable marriage partners. There are tons of reasons for this; not the least is that there are way more women than men in the Church (on average). Unfortunately, this imbalance leads to a feminization of everything Christian from a male perspective.


Many men believe that Christianity is not the most macho of religions to join and that the Christian Churches have more than their fair share of men dressed in long robes and a lack of masculine role models. This does not encourage them to enter the building in the first place. It is no wonder martial arts are so popular with men; they are driven by physicality. Make church life more masculine and active for Christian men, and you will attract more men to the Church.


So, with fewer men entering the Church and more masculine men turning away, the options for the average single Christian woman are significantly reduced. So, what should she do? As a starting point, prayer is always helpful, but it is faith without works, and faith without works does not work! So, what comes next? As a result, many people become discouraged and start looking outside the Church for answers. This is why single Christians seek relationships in the non-Christian world. As a result, they become pregnant and marry unsuitable people who do not share their faith or values. Long term, this is the reason that many people leave the Church.


So, what can we do to address this? I often get asked how I meet single Christians in my current position. My first suggestion is that they start where they are in their Church and try meeting everyone they don't already know. Following that, one can visit local churches from time to time. Then, begin networking with other members of these Churches who are similar. Organize events, call each other, and cheer on each other.


Finally, the Internet has enabled many to meet people otherwise would not have met. Please do not disregard it. It is possible to succeed if you have faith and perseverance. Don't give up too soon. Many people expect instant results from the Internet, which is unreal. Take your time and ask your friends to support your activities prayerfully.